There are two levels to couples therapy. The first level is working on practical tools and tips that you can apply immediately: ways to communicate, ways to address conflict, and ways to ask for what you need and give your partner what he or she needs in the relationship. Many couples are able to see immediate improvement using these tools.
The second level of couples work is deeper. It involves getting to the underlying patterns in the relationship. These deeper issues usually have roots in unspoken anxieties, long-standing conflicts and resentments, or in each partner's past experience with their own families. If there is a lot happening for couples on this deeper level they will need to invest greater time and effort to see the changes they want.
I see my role as a couples therapist is to help with both these levels - both the practical and deeper aspects of couplehood. My goal is to leave you and your partner feeling closer and more respectful of one another, so that you can grow and move forward towards your next steps in life.
Importantly, I support both men and women equally in couples work, understanding that they sometimes differ in how they approach certain issues. Learning to see your partner's point of view and vice-versa leads to increased connection, understanding, and appreciation.
With couples, I specialize in:
Individual Therapy (21 and over)
To book an appointment or for a free phone consultation, please call (408) 841-7443 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. If I have availability in my practice you will receive a response within 48 hours.
I currently see clients in San Jose, California. Initial meetings can be done face-to-face for local clients, with the bulk of subsequent meetings taking place via secure video conferencing or over the phone.
The pay structure (using insurance or private pay) is the same for video conference or phone as it is for in-office psychotherapy. Both individual and couples therapy can be done via secure video or phone as well. You must be a current resident of California.
If you are curious to see if I am right therapist for you or for your relationship, I offer a 30-minute consultation free of charge for prospective clients. Please see below for contact information and to schedule a consultation.
Some individuals seek therapy because they are struggling with relationships issues or have career concerns. Others are coping with family-of-origin issues, ADD/ADHD, depression, addiction, loss, or anxiety. Still others are just looking for objective advice and a place to discuss a specific, difficult situation.
Psychotherapy is helpful in all these circumstances and can support you in your growth and change. I see my role as a therapist as one where I listen very closely to what you want from therapy and we then work collaboratively to achieve those goals and insights. Therapy can be brief or can extend for a longer period. I have experience in a wide variety of modalities and approaches to therapy, as well as in meditation and mindfulness, so I can offer a number of options to you.
Working with adults, I specialize in: